Creating Flow

 We compartmentalize ourselves. Thinking of ourselves as the problem rather than part of the solution. We seek outside solutions for inside jobs. BDSM is a ritual to unpack those issues and find your true self. The place dominants get into is called top space of the flow. There are other activities that spark this flow, by writing I am doing it right now. I will lose all track of time when the words start coming. This is due to allowing myself to channel the great creative energy of the universe. My view on organized religion has not changed If people want to personify it and give it a proper name, that is their business, we here do the same, we just prefer other names and different archetypes. 

But wait you are saying this flow state comes from being creative. How is BDSM being creative? How is it not. To some extent it is theater. We are in a place where we are creating an experience for someone else, who has turned themselves to under our control in this moment. Now just the action itself is not creative. This is why it is a waste to get too caught up in the investment of toys. BY placing too much focus on them you are not investing on getting the job done. It is more effective to be able to walk into a room and be like a kink Macgyver and immediately identify things to hurt people with.  

Taking a more intentional focus is lie changing. In our personal play we might not have used the more therapeutic personal touch this program is going to lay out. Giving touch to other makes you more willing to be open to those around me. In the early days of my I jumped or get ready to defend myself if any sudden movements were made in the direction t. One of my first actual dates in sobriety found me dissociating when the girl grabbed my hair when kisses me. I apparently said

“He doesn’t like it “ 

I tried to laugh off and act like I did not say anything. I was not too sure what happened as something trigger me and I way on the outside of myself looking in like a passenger in my own body being propelled outward as if from an ejection seat. This person was damaged in a somewhat similar way and understood. She went on her own journey in defining her sexuality, but we have retained a friendship for 20 years . Before doing the work I have done, I was not able to maintain healthy friendships not based around drugs and alcohol for any great length of time. Drugs were the one common ground I could find with like minded, and they kept them at arm's length giving the illusion of being close. Funny enough this is not unlike how most people interact on social media, which can also become an addictive process

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