Getting to Know You

While things have changed  since I started writing this blog, I am going to stay the course and keep writing, even though I am happy at where I have come to and going to go with that. But this does leve the door open to discuss the early clean car smell of dating/ relationships and such. It also makes this particular entry that I started a few weeks ago feel a little weird but I'll go ahead and finish it as it's the proper point b to transition to after the first post. How do you maintain the parts of yourself that you don't want to compromise. Well when I decided this time around to dive back into dating I wasn't worried about the "getting laid" side.  Here is where most guys go wrong. This part is the most empowering as a man this empowering because there is nothing that can be help over my head or used as a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. I am  typically pretty happy jerking off anyways as in the past it has gotten the job done better . Like the old saying if you want something done right you gotta do it yourself. But going forward if you like the connection you have with someone then sex can be a way to get closer if you open up rather than get drunk and close yourself off and just "hook up" But we are not going to talk about casual sex rather the getting to know you part of dating.

With dating profiles and not the shorter swipe school of dating that can be just as effective, you need to find a balance of selling yourself and being true to who you are. Coming from a marketing background, I know the importance of writing to your demographics. So here is the intro to one of my old dating profiles started off like this.

As a touring musician , when I am not playing in dive bars I prefer building blanket forts and watching horror movies to going back out to wade through drunks at in smoke filled club

I don't talk politics because it's about as real as professional wrestling, and after all it's not the puppet it's the hand. I support anything that can make this world more like a 80's Mad Max rip-off with roving bands of mutants prowling the streets. So I am pro-Apocalypse, after all it's the most metal thing that can happen.

I also feel that organized religion of western culture is the empty promise of a whore, and I typically like whores

I do practice disorganized religion and prefer my gods to be older than Jewish carpenters

So right from the jump you thin the herd. We establish music as a big part of my life. I don't want to hang out in bars and most importantly how I don't want to get dragged into politics or religion. This might seem harsh and alienating to some. Certainly not all embracing in the more politically correct millennials can relate to, but that is what I was trying to avoid getting into. My ex wife and I had some very different world views when it came to cultural issues. How ever most of the time it worked when we agreed to disagree. I have worked with people and been friends with people for years who never knew my views on this sort of thing. Granted religion can be more of a buzz kill due to the morality clauses and how they like to yell down from their pulpits for everyone to keep their pants on, so that one needs to be weeded out from the jump. Other wise when you are taken aboard the mothership who really gives a shit what your views are on Obamacare when the probe comes out after all.