Welcome Earthling

As you may or may not know I write for a few other blogs. I have come to the conclusion that this would be the best outlet to keep my personal life out of those unless it's called for in something like Cvlt Nation, where I delve into mental health. But after getting divorced the world of dating has been an odd realm to try to dip my toe into so this is going to serve as place for my observations and thoughts on this misadventure. I am sure there are tons of other dating blogs out there. This will obviously be different since it's coming from the perspective of some one in the mental health recovery community, who already has a outsiders view by coming from a background in the kink community. In other words I mix what would someone trying to go about this in a healthy way do who at the same time finds the blue print of monogamy to be even more outdated in today's culture. With one divorce under your belt, a sane person would think, OK been there done that got the t-shirt, so what are the other options. I am old enough that just hook-ups also fall under the been there done that and it bores me column. So what were are going to look aside from the odd quirks of dating is how we can do this differently and get different results. Anyone familiar with the 12 step model know in the personal inventory, we look at the facts about ourselves. It's easy to say all the people I have dated are fucked up or crazy, but I am the one common denominator in all of those relationships, so I have to take personal responsibility for that in future decisions. It is not that I am not going to be attracted to that kind of person. It is knowing I need to shift my perspective when entering into a relationship of any kind with them. We will look at the forums this dating will take place. The landscape on ritual of swiping has certainly made us Earthling more ADD in this department and people seem more disposable as a pixel. The language they use in their profiles. I found out if one of the first things they feel the need to bring up is the fact they only drink every now and then, chances are they might be an alcoholic since normal people just either drink or don't drink and there is no need to bring it up since it is not something on their mind that they need to control. I bring up the fact I don't once we are at a bar and they are wondering why I am not . If I see it's making things weird then I'll go ahead and tell them I am an addict and don't drink because it makes me break out into needles. Why not throw it all out and get out of the way sooner than later. Mental health issue I like to take the same approach with that we have it on the table and you know what you are signing up for. I will say it even gets so bad I have become suicidal because if there is on thing I can't stand is to find out they were dramatically down playing certain issue then it feels like a bait and switch. Fuck magical thinking of "Oh, they are a wonderful person" . Wonderful people are for Disney movies. What is the real person here and do I want to invest time in them going forward. So that is where we are going to take your protein pills and put your helmet on.