Bound by Actions

 We are going to talk about bdsm as a tool of healing. This requires intention and not just  doing things just because they feel good. That is a surface level band aid. This will require us to look at our roles in our lives and ask … how is this working for me ? Is this working ? 

If something is not working, why do we do it ? Here lies the essence of compulsion. It does not care about the end result. That is why we go back to ineffective behavior even after the consequences of these actions tell us they are not working. We become obsessed with the very act. That does sound a lot like a fetish. The difference is a fetish has the power we give it. A compulsion takes power from us. We are making different choices to take back the power.

That sounds good in theory you say , but not everyone has that kind of willpower or resolve. They might not be as strong as you, maybe they do not know better. If you are reading this you now  know better.  If we use David Bowie as the bullseye musicians should aim for then it is reasonable to expect others will at least try to make music of his quality. This is under the notion that all people are created equal. As equals David Bowie would have  no other advantage at the base level than any other musician. He made music for 40 years and never made an album that was not what he set out to do or  did not stand up against his body of work. You can make the excuse that it's David Bowie  and it is not fair to compare others to him. If everyone is created equal then he was just a man, another human who harnessed his talents to do so . He just did so with more focus and intention than the next flop from the flavor of the day. 

You can do that in your life if you stop making excuses. There is a saying in 12 step culture that says “ If you are sick and tired  of being sick and tired you can try our way of life.a chance.

We are going to outline a  13 phase program of interactive exercises aimed at meeting the previously stated objectives . This will reunite  all the broken pieces of yourself into a person that is whole and empowered to either allow themselves to submit another or allow themselves to take power back and take control. We are going to commonly talk about this from the perspective of a top, but since these are two very different sides, each of the 13 phases will be outlined in a way that shows both sides the submissive/ bottom or the dominant / top. Are there variations of this like switches and power bottoms? Yes but the objective here is to be direct and honest with what you want when communicating with others in this setting so it will be up to you to pick which one you want to try. If you want to try both that is your business and we try not to yuck any ones yum. What matters most is you do it.