Leashing the Freak

 Engaging in acts society might view as deviant behavior creates certain stigmas. Granted this is if you care about what society thinks of you which we are not really invested in .We do care about living effective lives. An effective life has a high degree of self awareness. Being aware of our behavior enough to ask is this something I am really into or is occurring because I am  bi-polar , thus causing me to  have a higher chance of engaging in risky sexual behaviors ,  Much like the drug addicts and alcoholics are self medicating their own issues. There are some these days who say to suggest such as gas lighting Just because someone is a medical professional it does not mean that they might have ulterior motives or factors influencing them, like drug companies. Gaslighting has become a word that has become easy to hide behind when people do not want to look at their side of the street and do the work. 

 “What you mean I have to do work, I thought I could just get tied up and it would solve all my problems” 

The  system of therapeutic BDSM we are offering here, is not a replacement for a psychiatrist or being properly medicated . It is also highly recommended processing  other issues with a therapist. This is only meant to supplement your existing mental health treatment. 

It might come  as a disappointment to someone if you have not found an easy fix to their problems through a more conventional means. If  you assumed this would be the easier way. It is not, but it might be one that resonates strongly for you where other methods have not.. It is a fun way if you think of it in terms of  dressing up in leather and putting a ball gag in your partner’s mouth. The funny thing about life is you get out of it whatever you put into it. There is no return without a big investment  

Even meds are not a magic bullet. They give you just enough gas to make it up the on ramp to life, the rest of the driving is up to you  and the actions you take. We all work on our recovery here by doing things like  going to the gym, self regulating sleep and  being mindful of the kinds of things we ingest. In the majority of the 12 step programs the commitment is to the fact you can not use a certain substance. This is inverted. We are committing to empower ourselves. We are going to  make our lives manageable  by using this outlet. 

If you are an S type used to turning power over ,  the other 12 steps saying “Surrender to Win applies here”. That is not a blind faith in whomever has DOM on their Fetlife profile. Instead, one of the things you need to learn is to raise the bar  and expect people to know what they are doing . If they are not willing to sit down and work out things like protocol with you and communicate .if not you need to able to decide that you deserve more than just someone using BDSM as a way to get laid