Re-Launching

 I had started this blog after getting divorced 4 years ago. Since then I started Subspace Station, rather than create an entirely new blog for it I think this Loving the Alien blog fits nicely as it continues with the space theme and started the journey of self -discovery in relationships which is crucial to what we are doing here at the Sub-Space Station. After all the concept of using BDSM as a vehicle for therapy is contingent on individual self work and this ritual is just a tool to get past blocks preventing that. If your interest in kink or BDSM is strictly just for kicks because it feels good, then  you might be in the wrong place and missing the point. While I am grateful for the outpouring of interest in the work we are doing here, let us be clear about what we are doing. 

We are helping others work through blocks some of these are mental and emotional. There are elements of both CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy)  and ACT ( acceptance and commitment therapy) . This will be unpacked in future posts. The nuts and bolts of what we are doing here will all be laid out. I have seen some comments on the page of people who are confused about this. That is ok. Many people are confused about BDSM as a whole. Even in the so called kink community which tends to pride itself in being forward thinking these days. Funny enough it often tends to shy away from the personal accountable of self care, since that calls into question the party atmosphere it often aligns itself with. There are often BDSM themed tents at burns these days , or at least the pre- Covid days when people went to events like that. This seems to be missing the point, while some drugs used for recreational purposes can be also used for therapy, there is no miracle pill. Mental illness require disciplined lifestyle choices. This is where we tend to lose some of you because why not just trip and get your brain re-wired? Perhaps it can cause those changes , but if you go back to living your life in the manner you had been with all of your unhealthy habits and coping mechanisms , then nothing changes. 

BDSM is many ways is about self discipline . A sharp contrast to people who want to dabble in it because it feels good.  The D/S dynamic is about an energy exchange. If your energy is to be blunt ...shit, because you are a drug addict, alcoholic or a toxic person who uses your mental illness as an excuse then, you need to clean up your side of the street before you begin this process. Sure you have PTSD, which is one of things this was designed to treat, that does not mean , we are here to enable, people who adopt the victim thinking and identification to justify their self stagnation, this is for sick people who want to get better and are ready to do the work to get there. This is about empowerment not ineffective self narratives that keep you stuck. If this is for you and we will continue to peel back those layers of the onion, then welcome board the ship !