Harder Deeper Truths

 If you have not read the “Getting Deeper” series of posts regarding the science of a scene, it is recommended you do so. The science and juggling of the chemical reactions triggered in a proper BDSM scene is a more complex and nuanced experience than just playing around. Subspace is much like the female orgasm. Many partners do not achieve it since they do not try long enough or simply just do not know what they are doing.  It can be induced for shorter bursts of intense levels, but that is not what the purpose of the work we are doing here is. 

My friends from the Fetish community will all concur, I play hard with a heavy hand. I am a big 260 lb man who works out five days a week. I train my body with the intent of hurting people since I am a sadist. The universe however is about balance. There is a difference between when I seek out outlets to release this energy, and when I do the work we are perusing here, which is a more delicate exchange of energy. 

Being bipolar myself, I am aware both sides are capable of healing and hurting, depending on how they are employed. As a Top- type, my depressive side is more aggressive and uses top space to elevate me into a more focused flow state.  Even before receiving a formal diagnosis, I found this occurring, so with self-knowledge, I began to study the causes and conditions of this.

We would take this time to acknowledge how important it is to seek out professional help, to get an accurate diagnosis, and not just a checklist from WebMD. The trend online in recent years is to just diagnose yourself with whatever the trending hashtag condition is on TikTok to feel like you belong to something bigger. This is so common recent surveys have found that 44 percent of Americans 40 and younger have done this. Doctors in the pocket of Big Pharma are willing to co-sign this to get insurance money and kickbacks from drug companies. 

The reason this is important to avoid in what we are doing here is you can deceive yourself and create the false narrative you wish to identify with, but BDSM is about energy exchange, so the truth comes out in the results. If you are not truly the person you project yourself to be the energy will reflect that, and like anything else whatever you put out in the universe is what you are going to get back. 

 Granted the flip side to this is a great deal of people who are undiagnosed and in a manic state do not think anything is wrong with them. Another trend today is for people to claim they are being “gaslit’ which is the narcissistic trait they project onto so-called abusers. In any recovery program, the first step is seeing the problem for what it is, until that is done with the help of professionals rather than friends who co-sign whatever narrative you want to follow, to pursue any healing path is a fool's errand. 

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